When there’s ambivalence about the relationship
Anne is also aware that when things are tough, it can be hard to know how much you’re willing to commit to the relationship or to therapy. Perhaps your relationship has been under pressure for a long time and you’re not sure if you want to continue. Maybe you’re feeling disconnected, confused, uncertain, hurt, lonely or angry. You might be saying or thinking “Maybe we’d be better off on our own” or “I just don’t think I can keep going in this relationship”. These thoughts are understandable when you don’t feel like there’s much hope. Whether to hold onto and work at the relationship or not, is a difficult decision but one you want to be sure about.
For couples where there’s ambivalence about the relationship, Anne offers Discernment Counselling. This process, developed by Bill Doherty, aims to provide clarity and confidence moving forward whichever path you take. Clarifying and considering the options with an objective third party who brings insight and perspective to the conversation can help you gain confidence about the decision you’re making. Discernment Counselling is a short-term process of not more than 5 sessions that may be up to 2 hours in length. In these sessions Anne spends time with each partner individually as well as time with both of you together.
The goal of Discernment Counselling is two-fold:
- greater understanding about yourselves and what has happened in the relationship to get you to this point, and
- greater confidence in the decision you’re making regardless of whether you stay together or not.
More information about Discernment Counselling can be found using the below link:
Contact Well Of Life for a fee schedule. You might also wish to discuss the possibility of rebates from your health insurance provider.
Even before Covid hit, studies on the effectiveness of counselling online or by phone had been conducted… and the good news is that telehealth counselling is just as effective as face-to-face therapy. In fact, there are some significant benefits of online and phone therapy. Not least is ease of access, particularly for those in remote or rural settings. Many clients also reported that benefits from the session transferred more easily to their usual environment when the session had been conducted virtually in that environment. From a practical point of view, many clients also appreciate saving travel time. An additional benefit of telehealth through covid has been continuity of therapy through lockdowns, isolations/quarantine and mild illness.
At Well Of Life, individual sessions can be conducted either by secure video platform or phone. Couple sessions are conducted by video only. Good internet connection, along with suitable camera and microphone are required.
Professionals - Work with Anne
As a health professional supporting patients in the perinatal period you want the very best for the families you support. Whether you’re an obstetrician, GP, midwife, maternal and child health nurse or allied health professional you want more than a healthy pregnancy, safe delivery or a great start to a new life. You want a baby to belong in a stable, loving home; one that supports growth and development into a happy and secure childhood, adolescence and adulthood.
The reality is that transition to parenthood is tough. John Gottman found that 60% of parents in the first year say they don’t feel as close as they did prior to baby’s arrival. For parents to learn evidence-based, practical skills for strengthening their relationship is a huge gift. John Gottman says that the greatest gift children can have is a strong relationship between their parents.
The Bringing Baby Home workshop supports couples, as they transition to parenthood, to strengthen their own relationship skills, building their capacity to be the kind of parents they really want to be.
Bringing Baby Home is a fun, engaging, evidence-based education program to support parents at this critical stage of life.
Anne is also accepting referrals for expectant, new, and early years parents for individual and couple therapy to support emotional and relational wellbeing.
Anne would be very happy to discuss how she can work with you to offer your patients and their families the very best of care.